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My husband recently sent me this article titled Screw Finding Your Passion. I am not a big proponent of typing curse words out on the internet, but it is a good read.
In it he mentions that people email him all the time about what they should do with their lives.
He says he just cannot help people find their passion. I think probably because the word passion is just sort of a stupid (sorry, I mean overused) word at this point. It is overused and misused and we have come to associate it with unbridled obsession.
I went to Mind Share at Rhode Island School of Design this weekend and got to hear at Lindsay Degen discuss her knitting. I would say I got to hear her discuss her collaborations, her fashion line or her baby fashion line (super adorable and crazy creative) but what she stated VERY clearly was that she loved knitting. She broke down what the four stitches that make up her life meant to her and where those stitches might take her-she even concluded about a form of medical heart mesh being innovated that is…wait for it…knitted.
The reality is, there are very few “passionate about the knitted stitch people” in the world and yet we compare ourselves to that level of obsession all the time. We want to ask ourselves, what do I LOVE so much that I could create it in sculpture, in fashion, on babies and even on heart patients. For most of us, that is an unrealistic question and that doesn’t mean we don’t have passions or meaning.
If we could break down the question that we ask our children when they are about to pick a major for school into, “What are you interested in?” It might take the pressure off. Passion is a big and often elusive word.
We can best ask the question about interests or passions effectively when we have exposed ourselves to a myriad of interests.
I meet so many people that say, I am passionate about surface design, when a couple years ago they didn’t even know what surface design meant. People are not necessarily passionate about the end product. Surface design is designing the surface of a product. I have stumped quite few artists when I challenge them to look around their house to see what they have purchased that has surface design -patterns-on it. They answer is almost always very little to none.
When you “dissect” what you are interested in, the answers come. Do you love patterns on things or creating patterns? Are you creating patterns because you are possibly holding yourself back from creating something else? Are you simply thrilled that you learned to put something in repeat?
I think you need to look deeper and ask yourself some questions.
What you are spending money on? What websites do you land on all the time? What books do you buy? What could you do in your sleep -or even when you are cranky?
I might ask myself these questions about my own interests:
Am I more excited about dressing for an event or night out than the actual event? Will I always encourage people even without a podcast (Yes, I told at least 6 of the speakers yesterday that I liked their talks and their work. I knew they would need to hear it)
Do I get happy when I see someone make an effort to dress? Does great art excite me? What aspect of travel am I truly interested in? And just how many book on illustration or fashion illustration do I own? A LOT.
Do you flip things, fix things, read constantly, learn all the time, get frustrated when you see a business missing opportunities? Who do you bond with right away? What sort of things bring back good childhood memories for you? What do you own a lot of? What special interests stories do you never tire of hearing?
Here are some thing I could (and have) explored:
If I say, I am a shopper and like fashion, that’s too simple. Possibly I like ‘retail.’ Am I interested in the bottom line of what actually sells or the experience a brick and mortar store? Do I like figuring out what prompts me to buy something? Possibly I like the idea of building an experience in a world that has been created. Hit any exclusive brand stores to know what I mean, anything from Nike to Disney to Kate Spade. If I like travel or to experience cultures, I know myself well enough to know I specifically like European cultures.
Are all those interests going to be a career, no. I am not even sure ANY of them should be, but there are clues about who I might want as clients, what sort of products I could develop, what sort of companies to work for or what I should build from scratch and what type of people I want to be around.
So another part of the “interests” or passion puzzle that might need to be unearthed is, what type of people do you NEED in your life? And go beyond saying something basic like “creative people” or “athletic people.”
Here is interesting example:
I have a girlfriend who is working with a group of professionals that she really doesn’t like. She is setting out to help them and possibly change the industry but FIRST she has to sell them on her ideas. She has to sell her products to people she doesn’t enjoy. Bummer. Honestly, I think she is really into being a MOM, but in her mind it is simply not an acceptable thing to completely embrace. Are you possibly not admitting what you really are interested in because of social pressure?
DO you admire people who keep their word to themselves and to others? Are you amazed at people who can turn any project into a gold mine? Are you amazed with people who always seem to be innovating? Do you like people who dedicate long hours to their craft?
Do you admire people with singular focus or people who can juggle? Do people seeking spirituality fascinate you? How about people who are always helping other people?
When I answered these questions straight up, without guilt about the right or wrong answers, I surprised myself!
I become a lot more confident in what I liked and how to mold my passions (the first round anyway) when I created Smart Creative Style, it really helped sort out WHY I liked what I liked.
The word PASSION may have been tossed around in our vocabulary to the extreme, after all, it look great in a quote. It shouldn’t be dismissed by any means, simply reframed so we can fall in love with what we love all over again.