Today I have another post from Corrie Wessman who has been kind enough to step in as I head off to speak Alt Summer on “Choosing Yourself!”
I love being comfortable. Taking risks isn’t in my vocabulary and safety helps me sleep at night. At least, that’s how I functioned for a long time. You see, there’s something so comforting about knowing (or at least thinking I know) what tomorrow brings. To take the path of least resistance means the outcome seems to have a little more certainty. Maybe it’s because the steps have already been paved and the risk seems low that I can sometimes see its appeal. Or maybe because it’s just easier.
I sometimes laugh when I think about the path I’ve chosen. Becoming a creative small business owner is (basically) the opposite of everything my nature begs me to be. I had no prior knowledge or training in this field and didn’t go to school for business. No, I studied art. And absolutely zero business. On my last blog post with Smart Creative Women (here) I talked about leaning in to fear. I’ve learned that fear, for me, is the root of me wanting to stay in my comfort zone. Cozy and safe. And do you know what I’ve realized? I’ve found that comfort zones are over-rated. That’s right, folks, completely over-rated! The world is changing, and if I don’t change with it I’m going to get left behind. And being left behind, for this first born, is something I do not care to be! Sometimes I wonder when I say “yes” to one thing, what is it I am saying “no” to? The more I cozy up in my comfort zone the more I’m saying “no” to growth and good things. Or, should I say, possibly even the best things.
What are we afraid of? What am I afraid of? One more failure on my list? Isn’t that a part of being human? Being a disappointment to others?
“What if I fall?
Oh, but my darling
What if you fly?”
I love this poem by Erin Hanson. It reminds me of possibility and that it’s real. It reminds me it’s worth it to dig up the courage I know I have, I know each of us has. I love the community within Smart Creative Women because I feel empowered by other’s stories! It’s not only the stories of success, but it’s also the stories of failing and falling all along the path to success that I resonate with most! Are you like me and love feeling comfortable and safe? Or are you a bit more daring and risks don’t seem to phase you? Where are you at in your story, friend?
P.S. Here are a few resources that have helped me specifically in the area of challenging my comfort zones, both personally and professionally:
“Scary Close” by Donald Miller
Michael Hyatt’s podcast episode “Setting up Camp in the Discomfort Zone”