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I rarely see a “life quote” that I don’t like. I know, it’s cliché isn’t it? Maybe my real calling was writing greeting cards. I’ve become an idealistic dreamer, quoting Viktor Frankl, Buddha, Jesus, and Helen Keller all in the goal of creating direction for my life.
- “Live as if you were living a second time, and as though you had acted wrongly the first time” – Viktor Frankl
- “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows” – Buddha
- “Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself” – Jesus
- “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all” – Helen Keller
The challenge is that most people, including myself, have fallen into the acceptance of deferred living. Deferred living is when we accept what we have to do today in exchange for the false belief that one day we will change. Retirement is the largest example of deferred living. We agree to work for 50 years (more often than not at a job that we don’t like), to save money, so when we are 70 years old and our children have grown, and our house is paid off, we can then enjoy the benefits of life. We conveniently ignore the reality that, assuming we even live to the point of retirement, we will be in a state of decreased health and mind.
Even if you love your job, we make choices to defer living on a regular basis. Our calendar itself is based around this. We start our work week on Monday with the goal of making it to Friday so we can then start enjoying life again. In reality, Saturday and Sunday are no different than any other day of the week, but we treat them like the Kardashians of the Gregorian Calendar. One is no different than the others, yet is exalted in the public eye.
It reached a point where I wanted to scream at people in my office, “DON’T YOU KNOW YOU COULD DIE TOMORROW? WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH YOUR LIFE?”
In reality, I was no more enlightened than anyone else…despite the Kanji symbols for “Enlightenment” tattooed on my back. As example by the fact that I am a Caucasian male from New England, who has never been to China, or Japan, and has a Kanji tattoo.
I had my life quotes, I had my Kanji tattoo, and I had a pressing urgency that life was short and I needed to do something about it. I even tried to do things to show that I understood this better than anyone else. I rode motorcycles, I did adventure races, I climbed mountains, I ran triathlons, and I posted it all on Facebook to prove my enlightenment.
The truth is I was no more enlightened than anyone else. I thought I understood the issue, but the difference between going through the motions and reaching a true understanding recently became apparent to me. Read More